Rape Culture

Blessington. When he was 14, this man raped and killed Janine Balding. He was locked up in the jail for his entire life. And he is asking for “clemency”. Why isn’t that good?

For me, how it ends up is good. He should never be set free. He can just rot away in this jail for what he did to Janine Balding, and the grief he caused to her family. When I read the history I cried. I thought about my own rape, the rape of Jyoti in India, the rape of so many women. “Clemency”? He should never receive “clemency”!

Rape happens… every… single… day.

Too many women are murdered.

Too many women are “blamed”.

Too many women become mentally ill when they try to live with their memories.

Too many women have to live with it.

Women don’t report it because they don’t trust courts to believe them. Why not? Because men can just say that they “loved her”. Or they didn’t “touch her”. Or they were “taught to be nice to her”.

I read an extremely wrong article by “Dr” Tara J. Palmatier who supported “A Voice for Men” to turn against “Rape Culture”. Palmatier knows nothing about women who were raped by men. Who were very hurt by the insertion of … a metal stick (Jyoti) or a bayonet (me) during rape. Who was killed because the men (boys) thought that would finish whatever for them! FFS, get real “Dr” Palmatier!!!

 

Any man jailed for rape might adhere to rape by men. Why are they being raped? Because the men who conduct this crime think they have the crime which the men already committed. Why isn’t that in court? Because the men who claim they have been raped already raped a woman!!!

This Time article on 20 March 2014 says that “rape culture” doesn’t exist. I wonder if the woman who wrote this understands what has happened in the last 40 years? Valenti said “Rape-culture theory is doing little to help victims, but its power to poison the minds of young women and lead to hostile environments for innocent males is immense.” Oh how much I really wish that 40 years ago I could have reported my rape to police and expected the disgusting men to end up in jail! Nowadays? YES, I could expect that! That is not a culture, it’s a law, and must be kept alive!

 

Ending “rape culture” will not end rape. Ending “rape culture” will not assist women who are raped. Ending “rape culture” will not, ever, lock a man into jail for the rest of his life because the anti-rape-culture society think he did something small wrong and has paid for it and needs to start a new life!

What about women who are raped? Will they ever start a “new life”? They can, only if rape is seen to be a backwards “culture”. They can, only if they can expect the law to back them. They can, only if the disgusting rapists are locked away, hopefully for the rest of their lives! That is a law, and must be kept alive!

Ask any woman who was raped!

Survey - Violence Against Women in Australia

In 2012 the Bureau of Statistics (ABS) conducted a Personal Safety Survey for sexual violence which happened far too often to women. The long (148) report was done by ANROWS in October last year, and looked at "substantial new findings and several hundred new statistical items related to physical assault, sexual violence, intimate partner violence, and multiple victimisation.". 

There is a pdf file which you can download from ANROWS which can be very helpful to you. It looks at the experience of violence, most recent experience of violence, selected types of violence, sexual assault, partner violence, emotional abuse and much more.

The Australian Institute of Criminology looks at the trend of sexual assault, but it only reached 2007 in its data. However, by 2007 there had been an increase of 400 per month since 1995, and that's bad (scary?) information. 

Every person, female or male, should be educated into what causes sexual violence. Every woman should know that they have rights. Every man should know that a "normal life" is never violence / sexual assault / rape / victimisation. 

Women deserve a normal life. It's our life.