Call her Jyoti Singh

In December 2012 I wrote my website www.itsokaytobeangry.com. It was posted in memory of Jyoti Singh, who had been raped by 5 men in a bus, and days later died from extremely violent and shockingly internal physical force. Jyoti Singh was 23 years old. She did not ask to be attacked, did not ask to be raped, did not ask to be thrust inside her with a metal bar. She did not ask to die.

The four oldest offenders were convicted and sentence to death. They still haven't been hanged. The youngest offender, 17 years old 3 years ago, was kept in a youth centre. He has now been let out.

Why???

Why did the juvenile join up with older men? Why did he get involved in the rape of Jyoti Singh? Why was he convicted as a "juvenile" rather than as the same as the four other men when he was involved with them? Why was he let out???

India has had so many messages from women and families that women should be safe, that rape is wrong, that families should feel with their victim.

The Atlantic's article on 16 November this year, 2015, entitled "The Brutal Rape That Galvanized India", noted the student protest about this which happened the day immediate after. The India government banned the protests, and have now banned the movie India's Daughter made by the director, Leslee Udwin.

On 17 December 2015 Jyoti Singh's mother was reported in the Zeedee news from India as saying "My daughter's name was Jyoti Singh and I'm not ashamed!" Well said by Asha Devi, Jyoti's mother. This should be the way everyone thinks of this! 

NO WOMAN should ever think she will be raped.
NO WOMAN should ever let her daughter 'regret' her rape.
NO WOMAN will ever let rapists just "get away" with it.

So should every person who ever knows what has happened.

Rape has been around for every time. In the last few years the rapists have been round up and put away. They should. They should have been rounded up and put away for the rest of their miserable lives a century back. They should have been round up and put away when I was raped 40 years ago. I should have known that legal proceed could have happened. Why didn't it?

The four men who raped Jyoti and were sentenced to death should have been hung three years ago, straight after their court hearing. Why are they still alive? The youth 'boy' who also raped Jyoti should have been sentenced exactly the same as the older men. Why is he now FREE???

Rape is never acceptable.
Rape is women victims.
Rape is WRONG.

Every government with any legislation protecting women from rape of any kind should re-look at their policies to ensure that victims can and will take rapists to court and can then live without fear.

When will this happen???

#ItStopsWithMe

This morning I felt pretty pissed off. I had read an article, posted by a friend, on how men have their own websites which advertise a “Philosophy of Rape”. Yes, advertise rape. According to these men, rape is “corrective”. They started with a comment “Rape did serve important, healthy, and natural biological purposes historically in limiting the extent to which female bad behavior can go.”

WHAT??? Is this something that MEN will believe??? Oh yes, I am pretty pissed off. Absolutely pissed off!

Female behaviour is not bad! Rape by men IS.

Females are not sluts. Rape by men does NOT “correct the slut problem”.

Females are not “harlots and feminazis”. Rape by men will NEVER “correct” women.

Females never “want to be raped”. Men, ONLY men, will ever think this crap!

Rape, how they think of it, is a myth which is held onto by men who believe, absolutely incorrectly, that they can use this to “fix society”. Read this: http://www.secasa.com.au/sections/crisis-centre/common-beliefs-about-rape/ and this: http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/commonmyths2.php and this: http://www.d.umn.edu/cla/faculty/jhamlin/3925/myths.html and this: http://www.wavaw.ca/mythbusting/rape-myths/ 

And keep reading!! There are so many websites which break the myths, which should be followed not just by women but also by men. No man who reads this would ever disbelieve, would never join the idiotic “battle” by men against women, would rape any women because they are told that it’s okay!

Because IT IS NOT!

This year it is not - http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/melbourne-pair-jailed-for-multiple-rapes-of-fourteenyearold-girl-20150525-gh8vh6.html. Forty years ago it was not – www.itsokaytobeangry.com. One hundred years ago it was not - http://aussiecriminals.com.au/100-years-of-crime-in-australia/.

It has NEVER been okay!

But is it ever considered okay? So many women simply don’t report their rape. According to the Australian Government Institute of Family Studies http://www3.aifs.gov.au/acssa/statistics.html  International Violence Against Women Survey in 2004,

“Only 1 in 7 women (14%) who experienced violence from an intimate partner, and just over 1 in 6 women who experienced violence from someone else (non-partner), indicated that they had reported the most recent incident to police (16%)”

but

“almost half of the women indicated that their reason for not reporting was because they preferred to deal with it themselves, preferred to keep the matter private, or out of shame or embarrassment.”

Shame or embarrassment? Were these women convinced by men that their rape was “okay”?

It was 40 years ago since I was raped. I did not ever report this to the police, not because I preferred to deal with it myself, or because I preferred to keep it private. Yes, it was out of shame, because, way back then, I realised that it was not my fault, never my fault, but I could not report this to police if they didn’t believe me. Nowadays I don’t accept that police will turn away a rape. I have seen the law changed, seen the police support change, seen the feminist and women support change. So many individuals and organisations now will support and help a victim who had been raped.

And yet “Philosophy of Rape” tells men on their website that they “will teach you how to make 100% sure that you don’t get caught.”

Personally?  I believe that these men are absolute idiots who keep their infantile penises hidden inside their pants. They don’t have or won’t have a wonderful woman who would be with them instead of under them. They don’t accept love, they don’t accept awesome women, and they don’t accept an excellent future.

Men, if you are reading this – DON’T RAPE. There is nothing more to say to intelligent men. Those who are so stupid that this won’t go into their heads… well, leave women alone. They are much, much more intelligent that you will ever be.

Go onto Twitter and post this:

Rape will never happen in my life. #ItStopsWithMe

  

And live in a normal, non-rape life.